Last week I found myself sitting at a gym along with three other women waiting to hear about a 30-day challenge to transform our bodies. As we sat there having small talk, we chatted about our families, our schedules, etc. Once the owner of the gym came out to talk to us, she mentioned the importance of taking care of one’s health and the importance of self-care.
You know I was all ears and nodding along. Then she said….”we get busy taking care of others. Our spouse, kids, others. We are always last.” Each of the ladies nodded in agreement. Well, hmmmm……yes, yours truly raised her hand and said, “Naw! Not over here! In my home, it goes….”my husband, myself. Wait, let me correct myself….it’s God, my husband, myself (yes, almost tied with my husband), then the kids. Once we learn to take care of ourselves, our family will be taken care of much better than we could ever imagine.” Oh….snap! Why did I blurt this out? Don’t look over, don’t look up. Drop your head MomJonz! Just don’t make eye contact the rest of this session.
Yes, yes, yes. There was that little voice inside my head telling me to hush and to mind my business. But, I didn’t stop. My mouth kept moving. “That’s the problem with us women! We wait too long in our lives to learn this lesson! We gotta do better ladies!” Hmmmm…..really? Really MomJonz?
Yes, the other three ladies looked at me, the owner of the gym stared at me, and her assistant glared at me. And finally, the silence broke…..”You’re right!”
Maybe I should’ve remained quiet. Perhaps not. There’s a possibility that my words were food for thought. Or maybe there’s a social media post somewhere out there about me being the lady at the information session who talked too much. Oh, well. Those words may have resonated with one of those ladies. Reminding them that need and deserve ME TIME!
I hope they think about that morning at the gym with the random lady who started rambling about ME TIME and the importance of self-care.
Hopefully, you will take the time to focus a little bit on yourself and take the time to share this message with a new mom.
The Importance Of Self-Care
When we become new mothers, we disconnect with the outside world and disconnect with ourselves. It becomes a battle of taking care of the little ones and getting dressed for the day. Yeah, I remember those days. The days when your husband points out your shirt is on backward, but you tell him that you at least showered for the day. Ok, I can’t even pretend that I struggled with the skipping of shower days. NAW…that was a MUST. Hubby wasn’t playing that game! And a good friend came by each day so I could take a few minutes to shower or get my life together. This is why we NEED people in our corners, just saying. Don’t even say that you can do this thing called life alone. You need help! It’s ok to ask for help, I promise.
Ladies, each day, you should think about what you can do for yourself. Men, I’m not saying that you don’t need nor deserve self-care. I’m just focusing on the ladies right now.
If you can’t wrap your mind around any other reason why you should take time for YOU, think about this: The importance of self-care is to ensure your well-being. When you are taking care of, you are better equipped to take care of your loved ones around you.
So, plan that quiet time or doctors appointment. Visit that nail shop or hair salon. Call up a friend to grab a coffee or to just sit on the couch and chat for a few hours. The importance of self-care is to help YOUR mind, body, and soul!
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF for a moment! Before you do, hit share and spread the message with a friend.