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  1. Oh Lord, if my parents ever knew I dated a black guy growing up or even as an adult they’d have probably disowned me. That goes for my sisters and brothers too. I had to hide it!
    Two of my daughter’s have dated black men and I have two grandchildren that are a result of my oldest daughter’s relationship.I never had a problem with who they dated as long as they were treated right.
    My granddaughter dates a young man who is black and they seem to be doing well. I don’t see them much but really like this young man if they decide to go forward. My daughter and son in law are perfectly fine with their relationship and have even taken the young man under their wing since his mom has some real issues with herself mentally.
    I do think it’s very good to have open discussions about this with our kids. My girls were adults already when they dated but we did have some discussions that I believe were healthy for all of us.
    They’ve had issues whether who they dated were black or white and discovered sometimes they made bad choices but got through them. It didn’t have so much to do with race just issues of things like drug use or dishonesty they had to deal with.

    • I won’t lie, I was a bit shocked about talking about dating in general. Where did my little girl go? lol Having these open and honest discussions are needed. I always say….don’t give me surprises, I don’t surprises. Let me know what’s going on and we’ll be good. Bad choices see no color, it happens in every race for sure.

  2. Paulette

    Well Sybil, as you know, I am not against interracial dating/marrying at all! I think it does not matter what color your skin is! Heck, how many times did we have these talks when you were here. I had to get “black hair 101” from you just in case one of my sons married a black woman and I had interracial grandbabies, I would know how to take care of their hair!

    I think the most important thing within any family is open communication on both sides. You do have to point out that there will be difficulties while dating interracially as others will not understand and just prepare them that whatever decisions that make, they need to think about the consequences and are they okay with it and are they willing to fight for what they believe in. That is also true in all areas of life! I have been so lucky, as my guys are very open with me and tell me way more than I ever wanted to know sometimes! I have always emphasized with my guys that I love them no matter what life they choose and who they choose to have in their life! I want them in my life, so I love them no matter what and accept them for who they are! I am so blessed to have two awesome grown men now!

    • Communication is the key for all things in life. As I get older, I realize this more and more. ROFL…OMG, yes, the black hair 101 lessons were the best.

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